What is negative self-talk? Any time that you scold yourself about something you did or said, you are using negative self-talk. When you do it to yourself, it feels so bad and it can ruin your day. It also promotes low self-esteem and makes you physically sick.
Here's a method I have used that really promotes instant relief:
1. Reaction: You find yourself thinking of something you did that was stupid. (in your opinion).
2. Realization: Here I go again with self-blaming!
3. Recovery: I don't like the way I feel and I don't want to stay in this place anymore!
4. Redirection: Think instead- these are the things I did right-everyone makes mistakes-this is a learning experience- at least I tried something-I am growing and learning- what doesn't kill me makes me stronger-I will laugh about this later.
Get the point? Why dwell on negative emotions? Our little time on earth is so short that it is worth a little effort to be happy in life. Try it! It is better than pouting!